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How to talk to your daughter about her body

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Don't talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don't say anything if she's lost weight. Don't say anything if she's gained weight.

If you think your daughter's body looks amazing, don't say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

"You look so healthy!" is a great one.

Or how about, "You're looking so strong."

"I can see how happy you are -- you're glowing."

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don't comment on other women's bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don't you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don't go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don't say, "I'm not eating carbs right …

NZ PM

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New Zealand Prime Minister, Jacinda Ardern, is having a baby with a man she's not married to and he's going to be a stay at home dad while she runs the country. 

About bloody time these archaic gender roles were lost. Welcome to 2018. 

Welcome to the New World Order. 

It's like Times Up on a lot of issues.

Be proud, not just grateful

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I get the whole “attitude of gratitude”. I get that we need to thankful and feel blessed. I get that sometimes as women we feel unworthy or maybe even a bit embarrassed about something good happening to us, hence we turn to words like gratitude and blessed to describe our good fortune.

But we can also allow ourselves to feel proud of the accomplishment.

And sometimes as women we struggle a bit to say how proud we are of ourselves.

A year or so ago, I had the opportunity to put together a bunch of podcasts, where we I spoke to small business owners about how they got started, the challenges they faced, and the best parts of being self-employed.

It was a fantastic project and in my top five career-wise. And I’m not blessed nor grateful for its terrific outcomes.

I’m proud. I worked bloody hard on that project. It was an idea that had been unable to find traction and I was brought in to make it happen. One of my favourite things to do - make things happen.

In defence of tea drinkers

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This has happened to me more than once. And it shits me.

I'm a dedicated tea drinker. Black tea with a dash of skim milk. I like strong tea, builders tea if you will - Yorkshire Gold, Barry's Irish Tea, PG Tips, and Twinings Assam Bold.

And there's a process. Fresh water in the kettle to boil. Warm the cup or pot, especially in colder months. Steep the tea for 3-4 minutes minimum. Dash of milk at the end for a cup and dash of milk at the start for a pot.

As long as it's strong.

So now you've got that, I'll tell you what shits me.

I was in Paris one time, at a quaint cafe where all the seats face the footpath so leery men can check out the fashionistas. My tea arrived, with one lonely bag in an enormous pot of hot water. Cost for this privilege -  six euro.

I politely asked the waiter to bring me another tea bag in an attempt to make the aforementioned pot stronger. After watching him sniff his nose in disgust, and flounce off to the kitchen, he returned five m…

5 psychological reasons why you can’t lose weight

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There are many reasons a person might not be able to gain weight. Many of these are physical, while many others are actually psychological. There are five major psychological reasons that could be behind your inability to lose weight. Anyone who is having trouble losing weight should be on the lookout for these signs that a psychological factor might be at play. Dealing with a weight issue is difficult as it is, do you have one of these five psychological reasons for not being able to lose weight?

#1 You’re addicted to instant gratification.
This is the most common psychological reason behind someone’s inability to lose weight and keep that weight off long term. Psychology Today talks about how “Yo Yo dieting” is always associated with dieting because the concept of dieting is designed to have quick results. This desire for quick results can lead to people attempting other types of potentially dangerous dieting that won’t necessarily be effective in the long term. Weight loss requires…

Is there an excuse for cheating?

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So, true story.

When confronted by his girlfriend about his secretive online dating activity, where she cited she'd been monitoring it for some weeks and had even gone as far as creating her own fake profile so she could anonymously interact with him to find out his intentions, this was his reply:

"I was only doing it because I thought you were going to break up with me."

But your honour, she made me do it. Oh and the dog ate my homework.

Fuck off.

He then went on to say he didn't have sex with anyone, just chatted to them online.

Whatever. Like that made it palatable.

Whether cheating involves getting naked and jiggy-jiggy with another person, or simply perusing online profiles and going into chat rooms, I believe it's still cheating.

If you want to cheat, it means there is something fundamental about your current relationship that isn't satisfying all your needs. Which is ok, but you tell your partner this, and discuss it with them first, before heading in…

Interesting take on procrastination by Tony Robbins

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Procrastination is not a reflection of your attitude, work ethic, or competence. Procrastination is actually a behaviour meant to help us cope with stress.

Whatever we are putting off is linked to something that is stressing us.

Naturally, if you're stressed, you want to escape that stress. So we do what makes sense, we try to avoid the stress and instead seek near-term satisfaction, or at least a distraction and refuge from the stress. It momentarily makes you feel good to avoid the stress.
"What we are avoiding isn't the task but rather the stress that we are associating with the task."
- Tony Robbins www.tonyrobbins.com