Friday, March 3, 2017

If you want to make an omelette, you've got to break some eggs

To get to where you want to be, you often need to do some hard yards.

That could be changing some habits.

It could be changing your attitude.

It could be changing your location, your name or your gender.

Whatever it is, you won't get to where you want to be without doing some hard yards.

To make an omelette you've got to break some eggs.

Thing is - how bad do you want it? Don't bother breaking your eggs until you can honestly and authentically answer that question.

Thursday, March 2, 2017

How to not give a fuck

Stop worrying about what people think about you; who cares what you're wearing, where you live or who you date. Lots of people will want to make comment and indulge in gossip about it. But remember that people are gossiping about you in a bid to avoid how horrific their own life is.

Are you doing the best you can? Can you honestly put your hand on your heart and say that you did a particular job or activity to the best of your ability? Fantastic. And if it wasn't good enough for someone else - be it your personal trainer, your partner or your boss - then that's not your problem to solve.

Do you have a few close, loyal family or friends? If they say you're doing ok then chances are they're right. Lighten up people, at the end of your life, it's usually not going to matter.

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Pursue all relationships to their natural conclusion

Powerful words when you're wondering whether to date that person. You sort of feel attracted to them but there's a few red flags waving around in the air as well.

Instead of expending energy in an attempt to give your connection an explanation or a title, perhaps just enjoy it, ride it out and see what happens.

That doesn't mean you can't ask questions. Ask a million questions. Two million. If they have nothing to hide, they'll answer happily. If there's something to hide, the opposite.

But trust your instinct, listen to your body, and accept when it tells you that you've crossed that particular finishing line.

But while it's happening, enjoy. Experience, savour, experiment, learn, grow.

And be happy.