To get to where you want to be, you often need to do some hard yards.
That could be changing some habits.
It could be changing your attitude.
It could be changing your location, your name or your gender.
Whatever it is, you won't get to where you want to be without doing some hard yards.
To make an omelette you've got to break some eggs.
Thing is - how bad do you want it? Don't bother breaking your eggs until you can honestly and authentically answer that question.